LonPaul Memories

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Comment by Chris Kupersmith on May 30, 2008 at 7:59pm

I miss our friend so much. I keep wishing he'd strut around the corner, big old headphones on, and up into my lawn.

Comment by Lynn Burnworth on May 21, 2008 at 10:12pm

I'm saddened to see this group come to an end. It was comforting to be able to read about LP and somehow seem more connected to him.I'm thankful to everyone that we'll be able to share these pages with Rupert.I'd like to share one of my fondest memories of LP and Rupert Together.After bringing Rupert home from a long weekend with Nana . LP would be waiting on the porch when we pulled in the driveway he would bounce down the steps Rupert would be clapping his hands and kicking his feet and shouting for Daddy the smiles on their faces is unforgettable.Rupert will always know his dad's love for him. LP your missed greatly.

Comment by Kathie Stewart-Smith on May 19, 2008 at 7:04pm

Dear Friends,
Since it looks like we're about ready to wrap this group up, I'll write the thank you I've been putting off since last Wednesday. The outpouring of love I have felt on this site was shared, I'm sure, by all who attended the service on 5/14. I spoke to only a small fraction of those who were there, and I probably didn't recognize most of the people I talked to. I don't know how it happened, but we've all gotten older since Tin Lounge and Sardina, and you all look different with trimmed hair and suit coats. So, if I called you the wrong name or didn't seem to know who you were, please forgive me - I most certainly felt the love!
I thought Libby put together a lovely service, and I would like to especially thank Paul Mahern for his spiritual message and invocation of LonPaul's spirit. Also Michelle Marchesseault, Ben Shine, Vess von Ruhtenberg, Jorma Whittaker, and Richard Upton for the strength and caring they showed when they shared with us their feelings for, and memories of, LonPaul. And the musical number presented by Chris Kupersmith, with harmonies from Kenny Childers & Tina Barbieri, was especially moving.
I hope you all got a chance to look at the photos Libby and I gathered together so you could see that LP's remarkable countenance can be seen again in the face of Rupert. And the flowers, whether professionally arranged in a shop or lovingly picked from the garden, were all very much appreciated. Although my mother and Steven and I went right home with Rupert, it sounded as though the later gathering was one that LP would have enjoyed.
So, to all of you who were able to post memories and photos on Jeb's website, and to all of you who could actually be with us in Indianapolis - Thank You! And thanks also for the contributions you have made to Rupert's well-being. Whether monetary or spiritual, they all add to the treasured legacy of LonPaul - grandson, son, musician, friend, and father. You can't begin to understand how much I miss him, but with the support of your talented and loving community, I know we'll all carry on. My Love to all of you!
Kathie

Comment by Leslie Einhorn on May 19, 2008 at 2:09pm

Oh LonPaul...
I have so much to say- and yet I'm finding it nearly impossible to grab the memories and turn them into words. LonPaul was my sweet, wacky, intense, complicated, genius boyfriend-twenty years ago. He got lodged into my heart in the 'so emotional' eighties, and will live there forever. My favorite LonPaul memory was a night we spent at my parents house- when they were off celebrating their anniversary. We talked and laughed and kissed and contemplated the patterns in the floor for hours. That night I didn't know where I ended and he began- all I knew was that I wanted more and more LonPaul. We made an impeccable sign for my parents that accidentally read: "Happy Anniversarary". LonPaul had the idea that we could try to make the sign look childlike- as if the misspelling was intentional. So we did a mosaic that in involved Circus-Fun Cereal- gluing pastel colored marshmallows all over the sign. I'm sure my parents were horrified to find it hanging on the door in the morning.
I think this was also the night that LonPaul stared at a paintng hanging above the fireplace for a good twenty minutes before saying "It's not so much a presence of legs, as it is an absence of grass". If you know the painting- it makes perfect sense.
LonPaul slipped out as the sun was coming up. I will always remember him standing on the steps, his halo of messy, red curls lit by the rising sun- how wrong it felt in that moment to be separated from my other half.

LonPaul was the first true artist that I knew. We were all wildly insecure back then- skulking around, hiding behind bangs and black eye-liner- trying to decide who we really were. LonPaul was courageously, insanely himself. I still seek out people like him.
The last time I saw LonPaul was strange. I was in town briefly with my girlfriend- and really wanted her to meet him. We sat outside the coffee shop were he was working, while he ashed into his hand, tapped his foot manically, and said things in that LonPaul way that left me wondering if he was making fun of me- or celebrating me. There was no sarcasm- though- when he spoke of Rupert. He was overflowing with love and pride. Two years later I had my own little peach of pride. I'm so sad that I never got to see LonPaul with Rupert, and that Georgia Rose will never get a chance to meet her mom's wonderfully wacky first boyfriend. I will have plenty of stories for her though- when she's old enough to hear them.

I'm finding myself again needing to get more and more of LonPaul. I'm so grateful for all of these stories and pictures. Thank you to all who posted...

Comment by indyfitz on May 19, 2008 at 12:22pm

you all are incredibly awesome. i think anyone could appreciate getting his or her father's recorded and documented lifetime of music creation and friendship making. keep the faith little rupert..

Comment by kate-chan on May 19, 2008 at 10:55am

Lon Paul! You were always a source of saucy bon mots and lively conversation in general. I wish I'd known you better. Your actions spoke of tenderness and humanity. Thanks for always making me feel welcome in a tough patch of my life. Vaya con dios.

Comment by jebbanner on May 19, 2008 at 10:39am

We have received over $1000 in donations via the Paypal donation we have set up for Rupert. I plan to keep this up until the end of Wednesday, at which point we will deposit all funds received into the trust account. Also, we will be giving Kathie (LP's Mom) a print out of everyone that donated so that she can thank all of you. She is very touched by the outpouring from everyone and your generosity.

Also, I delivered 5 folders at the service to Kathie that contained all the memories posted up to that point (66 pages!) as well as a CD of 20 songs featuring LonPaul. This is so Rupert and other family members will have a permanent record of everyone's memories. Hopefully the handful of memories added since then will be added, I may be able to facilitate that.
Thank you!

Comment by Rick Wilkerson on May 17, 2008 at 5:32pm

I never knew Lon Paul well. I was and still am a huge Sardina fan. The last time I saw Lon Paul was years ago, when he fearlessly played drums with the three surviving Dow Jones & The Industrials members at the Tim North benefit, i think was about 4 years ago. What an incredible show that was.

He was a true Indiana music great. I am very saddened by his untimely departure. My heart goes out to his son, his family, and all who were close to him.

Life, it seems once again, just ain't fair.

Rick

Comment by Richard Upton on May 17, 2008 at 9:55am

a link left on my PC by LP

http://www.dbooth.net/internerd/annoy.cfm

i suspect he was at least halfway through the list

Comment by RichardB on May 17, 2008 at 1:50am

It's a night that's still clear as a bell to me. 1993ish. The Bloomington alt-weekly is hosting a bunch of Midwest alt-weekly writers. After an immensely boring day enlivened only by five or so Guinnesses drunk in about 30 minutes at the Irish Lion, we schlep our way over to a Red Lobster knock-off where we're supposed to be entertained by a couple Indiana bands, including Arson Garden, in the basement of the restaurant. What Arson Garden was doing playing to 50 or so alt-weekly folk in the basement at that point in their career was a mystery, but I remember not really giving a damn because of the band I saw before Arson Garden: Sardina. They literally blew everything in that basement to smithereens. It was one of the few times in my life that a band blew me away on the first blush: Uncle Tupelo, the Bottle Rockets before they were the Bottle Rockets (as Chicken Truck). I remember that Sardina closed with "San Francisco" that night and were practically levitating. They were instantly my favorite band -- and the demo that they had only confirmed it. I started writing about them as much as I could in St. Louis.

I tried to catch them whenever I could. They played a music festival in St. Louis. They also played at Washington University to a less than enthusiastic crowd of frat heads. Their loss. The band rolled out a lot of what ended up as Presents. I also saw them play a really edgy messy show at SXSW in 1995. I could tell they were imploding and I was really sad.

So when I found out today about Lon Paul (by accident) I was incredibly saddened by the news. I've largely hung up the music criticism thing these days, but LP and the rest of Sardina gave me a feeling of wonderment that I carry with me to this day. "Starving Lovers" is the #1 song on my iPod. "In April" is one of the most beautifully desolate song I've ever heard. And "I'll Be Around" and the chorus of "San Francisco" still elevate my mood every time I hear them.

We waltz in and out of each others' lives so frenetically that it's rare that we touch something and it leaves a lasting mark. The music that Lon Paul made with Sardina left a mark on me. I treasure it still -- 13 years after the fact. Thank you for it.

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